For most of us, Thanksgiving is a great time to relax, watch some football, spend quality time with your family and be thankful for the blessings in your life. For others, it’s more like the meme is found while searching Facebook for “Thanksgiving”:
“Thanksgiving is all about getting your dysfunctional family under the same roof and hoping the police don’t get called.”
We laugh because it’s all too true.
You might call this the “other side” of Thanksgiving. Not every family gathering is a happy time. As I thought about that, I pondered the words of Proverbs 15:15,
“All the days of the oppressed are wretched, but the cheerful heart has a continual feast."
I love that last phrase. “The cheerful heart has a continual feast." People with a cheerful heart have Thanksgiving 365 days a year. What is the secret? In Proverbs 15:16-17 Solomon reveals two qualities that produce the cheerful heart that enjoys a continual feast. These attitudes of the heart are within the reach of all of us because they do not depend on income, position, reputation, education, the size of our bank account, or any sort of worldly attainment.
The least among us may have a “continual feast” wherever we go if we take these two verses to heart.
I. Fill Your Heart with Faith.
“Better a little with the fear of the Lord than great wealth with turmoil” (v. 16)
Check out the first word: “Better.”
Some things are better than others. Solomon (who was the richest man in the world) does not mean to exalt poverty as if it is to be preferred to wealth. Most poor people would like to be wealthy if given the chance, and many of them work long hours to try and get ahead.
So, this is not a proverb in praise of living on the edge of financial disaster.
But from the beginning of time, there have always been more poor than rich. The world’s resources are not evenly distributed. And no matter how the politicians may try to redistribute the wealth, there will always be more poor people. This is less a statement about the way things ought to be than a statement about the way things are. No doubt this is what Jesus meant when he said, “The poor you will always have with you” (Matthew 26:11). Those words, which can seem callous, must be interpreted in the same light as our proverb. Jesus explains himself in the last part of that verse when he says, “But you will not always have me."
things matter more than other things.
The words of Solomon remind us that wealth is no panacea. Yes, it is true, as Solomon says in Ecclesiastes 10:19, that money is the answer for everything. Better to have some money than none at all. Yes, the rich have large houses, nice furnishings, excellent medical insurance, and protection against many troubles.
death comes to the rich just as it does to the poor.
Wealth provides only a limited protection in this world. Wealth cannot compensate for the breakup of a marriage, for children in jail, or sudden death. I read about a wealthy man whose son died in a plane crash. Speaking of it later, he said, “Once you lose your son, you find out that there is no such thing as serious money. Life and death are serious, money is not.”
If we have to choose between wealth and the fear of the Lord, let us choose the latter. Most of us don’t get the choice. Most of the world will never be wealthy. But we can all fear the Lord.
There is another way to look at it. Wealth, by definition, is a relative term.
We have so much stuff in America! We live in three- or four-bedroom homes so filled with possessions that we hardly know where to put it all. One person quipped that our garages are filled with junk while our multi-thousand-dollar automobiles sit outside.
In many parts of the world by contrast, millions of men and women and boys and girls live in circumstances of grinding poverty. They hardly need worry about where to store all their stuff. They own the clothes on their back and not much else. Compared to them, I am the wealthy man of verse 16.
It is “better” to live with a roof over your head and with money in the bank and with food on the table, but it is “better” yet to live with the fear of the Lord in your heart. One need not feel sorry for having more than someone else, but what a fool I am if I think that I somehow deserve what I have or that I am somehow “better” than someone who has less than I do.
do I have that I did not receive?
That includes every meal, every drink of clean water, every bit of electricity that powers my computers, every book I read, every shirt I wear, and every bowl of soup put before me.
Solomon does not ask those who have more to feel guilty about what they have. After all, even in the slums some have more, and some have less. Look around. Someone will always be ahead of you, someone will be behind you, and others will be right where you are.
But not everything is equal. Better to live in poverty and know the Lord than to be the richest man in the world and think you did it yourself. The rich man eventually discovers that his riches take wings and fly away. If he doesn’t discover it in this life, he discovers it when he dies because all that he worked so hard for, he leaves behind.
In that respect, we all come in and go out the same way. The lesson is clear. Most of us will never be truly rich in this world’s goods, but we can all be rich in faith and love and rich in the knowledge of our God.
Writing 250 years ago, English pastor John Gill summarizes the blessings of the man who fears the Lord:
For such a man, though he has but little, which is the common portion of good men, yet he does not lack; be has enough, and is content; what he has he has with a blessing, and he enjoys it, and God in it, and has communion with him; and has also other bread to eat, the world knows nothing of: and particularly having the fear of God, the eye of God is upon him with pleasure; his heart is towards him, and sympathizes with him in all his troubles; his hand communicates unto him both temporal and spiritual meat, which is given to them that fear the Lord; his angels encamp about him, his power protects him; his secrets are with him, and inconceivable and inexpressible goodness is laid up for him.
Let this one sentence sink in: “What he has he has with a blessing, and he enjoys it, and God in it, and has communion with him.” Can the world offer anything better than that?
II. Fill Your Home with Love.
“Better a small serving of vegetables with love than a fattened calf with hatred” (v. 17).
Eugene Peterson renders it this way in The Message:
“Better a bread crust shared in love than a slab of prime rib served in hate.”
The most bountiful feast in the world may be ruined if the people at the table hate each other. Discord at the dinner table destroys a good meal, no matter how sumptuous the fare, whether it be prime rib or T-bone steaks or turkey and dressing with all the trimmings. Your cooking may equal what they offer on the Food Channel, but if your loved ones do not really love each other, what good is all that effort and all that time and all that money?
You might as well skip the meal altogether.
The word “vegetables” refers to the simple fare that a poor family might share. It might be spinach or collard greens or cabbage. This family is so poor that they are vegetarian by necessity, not by choice. When they come together, they share nothing but a handful of stewed greens. It is not extravagant, but it tastes good because it is served with love.
Solomon doesn’t mean to elevate poverty above wealth. He merely reminds us that money doesn’t necessarily bring happiness. It certainly doesn’t guarantee a happy family or a harmonious Thanksgiving dinner.
The point is, we know these things. We don’t need Solomon to tell us because deep down we know that faith and love matter far more than money or fame. That’s one reason why It’s a Wonderful Life remains one of the most beloved Christmas movies of all time. When George Bailey (played by Jimmy Stewart) contemplates suicide on Christmas Eve, it takes the help of an angel named Clarence for him to see the difference his life has made. As it happens, three of the best lines in the movie come from the angel:
“Strange, isn’t it? Each man’s life touches so many other lives. When he isn’t around he leaves an awful hole, doesn’t he?”
“You see George, you’ve really had a wonderful life. Don’t you see what a mistake it would be to just throw it away?”
The third one isn’t a spoken line. It’s the inscription in a book left for George by the angel as the movie comes to its climax:
“Remember, George: no man is a failure who has friends.”
So, if we know these things, why does Solomon have to remind us? Because we need reminding, that’s why. Because we all live under the spell of the big world with its flashing lights, alluring games, beautiful people, and all the promises of the “good life” on the other side of the street.
Why would seemingly powerful men throw away all their common sense and a lifetime of brilliant success and have an affair that suddenly is splashed on TV, radio, and across the Internet? There really isn’t one answer to that question, except to note that going back as far as King David, powerful men have been tempted by beautiful women who were available to them, and that led to all sorts of foolishness and ultimately to the sort of behavior that those same men and women would have sworn they would never have done. These temptations apply not only to rich and beautiful people but to all the rest of us as well. Some not-so-beautiful people have done amazingly dumb things too. One can only hope that the finger pointing will lead us all to honest self-examination.
You don’t have to be a four-star general or a politician to blow up your life, your career, and your family.
This may sound like I’ve changed the subject, but really, I haven’t because all of this is Solomon’s subject. Remember the operative word is “better.” It’s better to enjoy a simple meal where love abounds than to feast at the finest restaurant in Paris, drink the finest wines, and be surrounded by people you can’t stand. As the man on the midway says, “You pays your money and you takes your chances.” Thousands of people will read Solomon, nod in agreement, and then go out and blow up their own family by a round of foolish choices.
But you don’t have to live this way. Choose today whom you will serve, the Bible says. “See, I have set before you today life and death. Choose life, that you may live.” That’s wonderful advice, first given by Moses to the children of Israel, but even after all that wandering in the desert, and after a whole generation died, they still made the same mistakes over and over again.
Psalm 78 recounts the early history of Israel, it shows how Israel kept messing up and how God judged them and then forgave them, and then they would do it all over again.
You can read it for yourself. I’m not exaggerating at all. God ends up being the real hero of the story.
“How often they rebelled
against him in the wilderness
The people who knew what God had said either forgot or didn’t care or thought they had a better idea or just decided to do things their own way. It never worked out. Then you come to a wonderful verse like this:
“But he brought his people
out like a flock;
That’s us. We’re God’s sheep. Every time you turn around, we’re going our own way. Left to ourselves, we’ll get lost, or we’ll wander back to Egypt, or we’ll start fighting each other, or we’ll end up as supper for the wolves. We’re unruly and we don’t like to be led and sometimes we’re just plain dumb.
But God leads his sheep all the way through the wilderness. By his grace, eventually we make it to safety and rest and shelter.
As long as you have God, you have what you need.
There is a “better” way to live, but it depends on us believing that our Shepherd knows what he is doing even when we think we have a better idea. If we have faith and if we have love, then we have what we need at this very moment. Commentator Matthew Henry puts it this way:
“It is therefore far better, and more desirable, to have but a little of the world and to have it with a good conscience, to keep up communion with God, and enjoy him in it, and live by faith, than to have the greatest plenty and live without God in the world."
Matthew Henry and Solomon agree. Some things are better than other things. If you have a lot or if you have a little, as long as you have God, you have what you need. Better to have God than to live without him in the world.
I leave you with the song made famous by George Beverly Shea. It seems to perfectly capture the deeper meaning of our text.
I’d rather have Jesus than
silver or gold;
Than to be the king of a
Let us make those words out be our application of this truth.
rather have Jesus.